DO YOUR KIDS RESPOND TO THE REWARD SYSTEM ??

Recently I have been filling out medical questionairres for our insurance.

I have been accused of being sarcastic, and I admit to it sometimes, but really, some of those questions.

One question asked if our children (under behavior) respond to reward system. I didnt know whether to mark yes or no WE DONT USE THE REWARD SYSTEM. more on that later. So I initially put yes, then there was a drop down explain what rewards they respond to. I thought about marking no, but then that might imply that our kids are rebellious.

So in the drop down box, I proceed to explain that we do not use the reward system, whatever that is...

Our children are expected to obey and live by our family rules, and when they dont there are consequences to their disobedience, not reward for when they obey.

We have raised them in a Christian home with Jesus as the head and the Bible as our instruction book and expect them to live accordingly.

Their reward for living a life pleasing to the Lord will be in heaven. Of course we catch them doing right and tell them we appreciate them, give them lots of hugs, smile at them, laugh with them, just because etc..We give them words of encouragement and notes of appreciation. They know we feel blessed to have them and know we love them.

So days later i cant get it off my mind. do people really "reward" their children for expected behavior?

Where have I been for the last 45 years???

BEING A PART OF OUR FAMILY/GODS FAMILY IS THEIR REWARD: They have beds, clothes, food, love, shelter, respect, work ethic, grace, guidance, family vacations, fun, ministry opportunities, education, support, listening ears, forgiveness and they get to be apart of a family. As a part of that family they are expected to clean up after themselves, do what they are told when they are told, do their school work, homework, treat each other wirh respect and live the way the Bible teaches us to etc...THEY SHOULD CONSIDER IT A PRIVILEGE TO BE PART OF A FAMILY. I KNOW I SURE DO.

AND THEY DONT GET PAID FOR CHORES or GET AN ALLOWANCE EITHER... we give them what they need when they need it and give them some things they want when we have extra money if we feel it is something that won't corrupt their minds/bodies. We also dont withhold what they need as punishment. We are expected to meet their needs as parents. They get gifts on their birthdays and gifts and Christmas and sometimes we just give them extra blessings (not because of behavior) just because we love them. If they earn money while still in our home, or get money from people as gifts or us, we still approve what they buy or spend it on... kids dont have to have an allowance and be paid to do chores to grow up learning about finances or how to manage money, tithing, giving. Those things are better caught than taught. We also have life management classes and economy classes for better understanding for their future.

REMINDS ME OF A FUNNY JOKE MY UNC TOLD: LITTLE BOY TO MAMA: Mama, if i be good will you give me a dollar? MAMA: Son, why dont you be good for nothing like your daddy. OH GO AHEAD AND LAUGH YOU KNOW ITS FUNNY

BACK ON A SERIOUS NOTES, WE PARENTS SHOULD REALLY EVALUATE AND NOT TRY SO HARD TO BE FRIENDS AND COUNSELORS AND STOP COMPENSATING WITH MONEY AND TOYS, FOR LIFE JUST BEING HARD SOMETIMES, AND PARENT WITH BOLDNESS AND GUTS.

MAYBE THAT IS WHY ALOT OF PEOPLE "SIGN UP" FOR CHRISTIANITY EXPECTING GOD TO FINANCIALLY/PHYSCIALLY BLESS THEM FOR DOING RIGHT, AND NEVER REALLY UNDERSTAND THE GOSPEL. THEN SO QUICKLY WALK AWAY FROM HIM, OR DONT GET THE REWARD IN HEAVEN SYSTEM. WE GET FORGIVENESS FOR OUR SINS, INSTEAD OF PUNISHMENT. IT IS A PRIVILEGE TO BE PART OF HIS FAMILY FORGIVENESS FOR SINS, FELLOWSHIP WITH HIM ETERNITY IN HEAVEN IS ENOUGH FOR ME. JESUS IS MY REWARD, I WANT NO OTHER.